On Having a Baby in a Pandemic: 9 Months Pregnant During the Coronavirus

To say this is 100% NOT how I pictured spending the last few weeks of this pregnancy, is an understatement. Of all the things to freak out, obsess and have anxiety over right before giving birth, an international pandemic should never be one of them.

But here we are.

It’s crazy to think that during my last OB appointment, everything changed. The Coronavirus was on my radar – my parents were traveling in Egypt {on a cruise ship – of all places} so I was low key stressing for them, but other than that, everything was moving along as planned.

Until it wasn’t.

The last few weeks of any pregnancy is not easy no matter any situation. Your body has some serious work to do and is getting ready to send that life you’ve been growing, earth side. I had plans to spend the last few weeks before baby catching up with friends, having a date or two with the hubs, going on special adventures with B + G {before adding another little man to their soon to be trio}, getting a mani/pedi with my mom {our pre-labor and delivery tradition}, showing off that 9 month baby bump where people love to ask you if you are going to explode baby at any given moment and just generally enjoying all those last few kicks, rolls + punches of the rambunctious little one in my belly. It’s really a beautiful time to soak up and get so excited for the new family member about to join.

But I and so many other pregnant women have had that taken away from us in the blink of an eye. Now is not an ideal, safe or comforting time to be giving birth. It’s scary to think of and with things constantly changing every day, I can’t even begin to plan for any of it.

Not to mention the fact that the construction on our kitchen + laundry room has been stopped due to everything for the indefinite future – so there’s that to add in the mix as well.

Good times.

At my last OB appointment, the most frustrating and scary thing my doctor and I discussed was the fact that she couldn’t guarantee that my husband would be allowed to be in the hospital with me, during labor & delivery.

Something you NEVER expect to hear when you are a few weeks {or days} away from giving birth.

Having given birth twice before, I knew that was something I never wanted to have to do, and it’s a super scary thing to have to hear from your care giver.

While since that conversation with my doctor, NY State has signed an executive order overruling any hospital not letting a woman give birth without a partner, it still is such an uncertain time of everything that can quickly change in the blink and no matter what, there are no guarantees. I’m in Pennsylvania, so I’m hopeful things will not get to that point where they won’t be able to allow partners in the room during delivery – because I don’t think that’s safe for the mom and I think its unfair to the partner and generally traumatizing for everyone – but still you just don’t know.

And it all just depends on timing.

I was induced with Brooks {who was almost 2 weeks late} and I was also induced Graham {who we took 2 weeks early} so during my appointment over a month ago, we tentatively scheduled an induction on Easter for this little guy.

I am very grateful to have the induction on the calendar – especially having to worry about care for both Brooks + Graham while {hopefully} WE are in the hospital, so it’s nice to have that to plan for. I’ve also had good luck with inductions my two previous births, so I know what to expect. And it’s generally just nice to have something to look forward to on the calendar and countdown to everyday, with everything going on.

I’m currently at the point now where I don’t really know if it’s safer to keep him locked and loaded in my belly as long as possible or if getting in and out of the hospital as soon as we can – before any possible surges in PA hit – makes more sense. It’s a crazy position to be in, when you are actually questioning the safety of being in the hospital for the delivery of your baby.

But then again, none of it is really up to me. If little man wants to make his debut earlier – unlike his brothers – then that’s up to him. And in terms of my scheduled induction – with everything going on, the doctors and hospitals could change that sooner or later on me at any moment as well.

It’s the anxiety of the unknown.

The waiting game.

But it shouldn’t be THIS INTENSE the last few weeks or days of any pregnancy.

Other than the last month and everything falling apart with the spreading virus, renovation stopping in our home and now the added bonus of “homeschooling” B + G – everything has been really great with this pregnancy. I’m at the point now where I am “big” so it is understandably uncomfortable to do lots of things, but that’s totally to be expected at this point.

A high point before all this COVID-19 madness started – being able to bring the boys into my last ultrasound. They were talking about seeing their brother for weeks and so excited they were allowed in to see the baby in mama’s belly. It was a super sweet moment.

As I publish this post this morning, we are officially 11 days until we go into the hospital for the induction – again, as long as nothing changes between then and now. Trying to spend the next few days focusing on staying calm, cool and collected with everything going on – going to soak up my two little boys at home and give them lots of extra love and attention – and from there we will see.

Sending lots of love out to all my fellow pregnant mamas, new mamas and mamas like me about to pop. We will figure this out and this will be a pregnancy that we will not forget.

If you have any words of wisdom, or are also going through this and would like some support – I’d love to chat! And if you think I’ve forgotten anything in my {minimal} hospital + baby bags – shown in the pictures above, let me know!

Thanks for reading, stay safe out there and wash your hands <3

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2 Comments

  • Reply Patty April 1, 2020 at 8:17 am

    My heart is breaking for you sweetie, but you and your supportive family will get through this , we have too!
    Looking forward to seeing/holding our little Pandemic baby, he will be something special for sure!

  • Reply Annie Mitchell April 26, 2020 at 3:33 am

    I can really feel what you are going through, with this pandemic hampering our everyday lives. It must be very difficult to be in your shoes now. With all the worrying and the stress. Good luck and stay safe and keep updating us.

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